"Alleged Victim", Witness, it's a bunch of hooey

As some of you may already know, I was a victim of domestic violence just after Thanksgiving.  My boyfriend, who I believe to be bipolar, was drinking a lot (I was drinking as well), and he got mad at me and beat the crap out of me, even knocking out two teeth.  He is not aware of most that happened that night, and I think that's wrong.  I want us to heal, and for him to receive treatment for things he has never had the privilege of addressing before this incident, in spite of numerous close calls.  I refuse to let something like this happen to me without there being a positive outcome.


What bothers me the most is that I have absolutely no say in anything related to this case.  I have no representation, and the defense and the prosecution can freely volley my name or classification (alleged victim or witness if they don't use my name) an no one is there to represent my interests.  They can say whatever they want about me, and I'm not there to tell my side, or defend myself in any manner whatsoever.  I am merely a pawn for the prosecution or defense.  Something is horribly fucking wrong with that scenario.  


Why does our justice system allow for no protection for a victim?  Why don't I have an attorney who is there to ensure that nothing unseemly is said about me, and to protect my interests?  To keep me from being the proverbial tennis ball lobbed from side to side...she was drinking, so her statement doesn't hold as much weight. Well, if he was drinking, then his statement doesn't hold weight either.  So where does that leave everyone?  Oh!  I know!  It leaves the defendant covered and the witness (VICTIM) standing naked in the wind.  Uncovered, unprotected.  Is that really justice?

Entertainment I can't live without

It's the old stranded on a deserted island game.  I was looking through my CDs, DVDs, books, etc., and tried to think of what items of each I could not live without.  I figure all of this would have to be housed on my Droid with some sort of solar charger, so I hope they come up with inexpensive 32 GB micro SD cards and a solar charger before I am stranded.

Not limiting myself to any particular number of any items, because in some cases I couldn't live without an entire catalog of a particular artist or an entire series.  And you can fit a hell of a lot of stuff onto 32 GB, and is my damn world, so I'm taking as much as I can!

Aimee Mann.  It was reading her tweets and realizing her music has not left my side in over 20 years that made me think of this in the first place.  I can be incredibly down, and just to listen to one Aimee Mann song (whether through Til Tuesday or solo), can take me to a different place entirely.  Her music is as ingrained in my life as any of my memories along the way.

Nelson DeMille.  Entire library.  There has only been one book by DeMille that I didn't thoroughly enjoy, and it was a follow-up to one of my favorite books of all time, The Gold Coast.  Really, he should have left it alone. I think that with so much time in between the original and the sequel, his life took just a different direction and where the characters would have ended up earlier was not where the ended up later.  But so many of his books I can read again and again, that I would choose his to accompany me on my Droid.

(I must interrupt this post to tell you how much I despise the freecreditreport.com commercials. I'd rather be water boarded.)

Movies and TV are pretty easy to determine.  I just did this, theoretically, by purchasing new Blu-Ray discs of movies I already had on DVD.  I'll just list them.  You can read into it what you want.
Final Destination series
Supernatural TV series
Friday the 13th parts 1 and 2
Live Free or Die Hard
Twister
Halloween
Cast Away (tips!)
Just Married
Charlies Angels (entire series not currently available, but its my world)
The Bionic Woman (I have it downloaded from some other country, so I'll take it!)
Marilyn Monroe (all)
In Bruges
Buffy the Vampire Slayer TV series

Ayn Rand. Entire library.  It might not seem as relevant and important to me if I was alone with my entertainment, but her philosophy speaks so well to what I believe she should make the trip.

Counting Crows - August and Everything After

Theory of a Deadman and Three Days Grace catalogs.

I find myself entirely bored now.  How pathetic is that.  Right in the middle of a stranded island and I peter off. Since I don't think I'll be stranded any time soon, I figure I can finish this up later.

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Android Apps I Can't Live Without - Part Deux

FLYSCREEN!!!

I seriously cannot believe that when I started out on my Apps post I was thinking of Flyscreen, and by the end I completely forgot to mention it.  I guess it's because I don't have to DO ANYTHING to use it.  My screen locks, and instead of just a worthless blob of plastic and metal, I have things to do!  I use it for Gmail, Twitter, entertainment and news sites (must keep up with the Charlie Sheen case since my case as victim is in the same courtroom with the same DA and same Judge!) and Icanhascheezeburger...  There are so many different things you can do with Flyscreen.  If you have an Android phone, I highly recommend trying it out.  Love love love!!!

PS - you can also follow them on Twitter!